Monday, July 27, 2009

Psycological and child abuse?

I think I need counseling. From 3 yrs old I remember my mother couldn't stop hitting me as she pushed my face into the floor. I think I spilt my drink.She told me constantly I was stupid. I left my coat at school when I was 5 yrs old and it was belting with rain at about 7.30pm at night pitch black . She sent me out on my bike and screamed don閳ユ獩 come back until you have it! Lucky there were cleaners there with a door still opened. She used to lose control for no apparent reason and hit me, told me she should have had an abortion and she hated me. Picked on me so much growing up, I'm fat you're hair style looks disgusting, you're ugly. She brought a t'shirt once that I liked too and brought one. She said to my dad 'why did she have to get one too??!!' and threw hers in the bin. I'm a lot older now and have a child of my own and do everything opposite to my mum to nurture and care for him. It occasionally comes back to haunt me and I get very angry and bitter



Psycological and child abuse?

Im glad that you are doing things different for your child.It may help to talk to a counselor,to let out all the ugly things,or maybe just write it all down then throw it away,and forgive her,ppl that do those kind of things dont usually dont give you another thought,DONT GIVE HER THAT KIND OF EMOTIONAL POWER,you must be very strong woman



to have came thru all that trauma



Psycological and child abuse?

If anyone needs counseling is your mom. My mom is the same way but I think that prison make crazy she said I was dumb, fat, sloppy, a complete mess, and alot other stuff. Now I live with my aunt. I would go tcounselingng. I hope you are better. Report It



Psycological and child abuse?

If anyone needs counseling is your mom. My mom is the same way but I think that prison make crazy she said I was dumb, fat, sloppy, a complete mess, and alot other stuff. Now I live with my aunt. I would go tcounselingng. I hope you are better. Report It



Psycological and child abuse?

this is why i feel sorry for ppl raised by parents by law now cause no1 will ever see the parents do wrong unless the kid makes some type of strong evidence. all i can say is u don't deserve that and your mom was badly abused when she was young that's why she dissing that out upon u, all i can say is u better stick to school and make sure u get out when 18 b4 u severely damaged in any way. and also leave them for good and ppl saying forgive them and stuff like that will only make the problem worse cause they may never respect u for staying thru all that. KNOW u have a heart and just do for yourself when u can.



Psycological and child abuse?

i think the best thing would be to get theraphy i need it too when i was younger i was abused and didnt tell ne one until recently(my current bf knows about it). my mother still tells me im stupid my father died when i was young and i have felt alone every since. it would be good for u to get some help im thinking about it too. i will do it, things like what u went through can affect ur relationship with other ppl because u will have a hard time believing the person when they say they love u. and when they say good things about u. luckily for me i have a boyfriend who wont give up on me. it will take a while to get over things like what u went through but hatred only makes ur life worst. i wish u a happy life from now on.



Psycological and child abuse?

The past is over. This is good news. It won't come back, unless you hold on to it in thoughts. It's not reality anymore. Look ahead, there is sunshine and blue skies. Smile.



Try this,



take a piece of paper and write down as much as you can.



1st. All you want to tell, to your mom.



2nd. What you want your mom to do. Tell her.



Write it all down.(You can replace writing by speaking)



Then tear it to pieces.



Let go of it.



Psycological and child abuse?

A cow eats grass but gives us milk.U are the cow in this case.I certainly feel sorry for u but on the other hand happy for ur kid. Look forward to life, the good news is it can only get better from now on



Psycological and child abuse?

you poor woman nobody has to put up with what you have done for all these years. it gets me so mad that things like this happen. What you have to do now is look after yourself and your child in the best way possible. She Dosnt deserve to be your mother or a grandmother. you look after your family now that is the most important thing and maybe u do need to see someone just to but the past behind u and move forward. Be strong and dont let anyone make you feel guilty. all the best and remeber u are in charge of your life now not her.



Psycological and child abuse?

I understand completly my mother was the same way. I have a son of my own now! It's not up to your grandparent's wheter or not you have a relationship with your mother or not! I suggest get some counseling and maybe look into parenting counseling. Your mother's problem could be generic as well as you need counseling. Trust me it will be a blessing!



Psycological and child abuse?

I also had an abusive parent in my case it was my dad.I know what you are talking about.I will tell you what seems to help me when I get to thinking about it and I get upset.I sit down and write my father a letter.I write down all the things that I would say to him.How I feel now.How it made me feel then.Just write it on paper.You don't have to send it.You could even tear it up when you are done.Try it and see if it helps you.



Psycological and child abuse?

I think your granma doesn't care and is wrong putting that guilt on you. She needs to be more sympathetic about what you went and are going thru now.



Psycological and child abuse?

a therapy is a good thing to have . you can see them and talk all about your thought no matter what they are . and no one will ever know what you talked about it be ween you and her .



Psycological and child abuse?

Therapy, if u can afford it,go it cant hurt. i was sexually abused for 2 years to make a long story short. i wish i had the means to go



Psycological and child abuse?

You made it baby. Now comes the important part, which is you and your child.You grew up and your mom didnt thats all.Mentally she's lacking and it may be too late for her.You recognize your issues and now you may just need to talk um out.Sometimes it helps just to get it all out.



Psycological and child abuse?

so go get it ,it will do you all the good.



Psycological and child abuse?

I was reading what you wrote and I can sympathize with you because I too was abused by my mother ever since I could remember. But back to you, I can picture you when you were 3 yrs. old and how you must have suffered with those beatings as you were growing up. If for some reason you feel guilty when your mother was mean to you, don't be because she was the one with the problem. How many years has it been when this happened? Please find some help with this problem because you would never have peace of mind over this.And I am glad you recognize the importance of raising your daughter, better then your mom did to to you.



Psycological and child abuse?

Crying will make u better



or



feeling sad



this will flush out ur feelings on ur mom



Take counselling too



let go of the past



Psycological and child abuse?

I am sorry you endured such treatment. Seeking therapy is a good thing for you. It will help you to talk things out and help get your anger out. Shame on your Father and Grandparents for knowing this kind of treatment was going on and not helping you in any way. You sound like you are on the right track with your child. Best wishes for a brighter future.



Psycological and child abuse?

i think it would really help to get some counseling. I woudn't blame you if you don't ever want to talk to her again, what she is was very wrong and you didn't deserve it.



Psycological and child abuse?

Therapy is the answer you are looking for.......find it, get it, get on with the life you deserve.



Psycological and child abuse?

I feel so sorry for you but if it troubling you then you should see a psychiatrist



Psycological and child abuse?

ur mom needs help. get some conlsering also belive me it well help get all the anger out... i know how you feel my mom was ause when she was little and still takes it out on me sometimes and it drives me crazy.



Psycological and child abuse?

Ok look, your grown now, deal with Mom at family get togethers/outings, Grandma/Grandpa will see you being civil to Mom in public, so's not to embarrase you or her, them, BUT your concern is fro/with your own child NOW to make sure this child has a safe and healthy, nurturing environment, your Mom is just NOT a happy person, "her problem"



Psycological and child abuse?

This is abuse people can't see. Mental abuse. And I too grew up with some mental abuse. I always was striving to look my best, not to gain too much weight. I remember since 2nd grade. My sister as well got it pretty hard too. She was overweight her whole childhood life and now she struggles with an eating disorder and she is pregnant. She is way too skinny and it makes my mom worry. I did have counseling when I was in 6th grade and I found out what was bothering me was my family. But being so Young I never knew why it was my family. But know being older and have kids of my own I am seeing it being repeated. I am carefull with my girls self-esteem and make them feel like princesses they are and my boys, well as if they can do anything. My kids struggle with put downs and criticism with their dad's side of the family. I tried my best to stop it but they are ignorant people. All I can tell them to not to listen to their harsh words and to let them know their mommy loves them and that is all that matters. I guess that is one,not the main reason, I divorced my x because he couldn't stand up to his family and stop it. I would recommend some counseling to help deal with it. I would let your mom know how you feel and that you are still stuggling with the haunting thoughts. It is not healthy.



Psycological and child abuse?

Yes i accept what has already happened.



Now let us come to the other way or result of the hapenings.Has it made you conscious so much that you give adiquate care to yr child!! Your entering into the folds of facing reality of social life and matured dealing with it!!!must be some other faculties must have opened!!!!



So now you think the happenings were your requirement which the nature provided.



Be you.Love yourself %26amp; be happy. Bye

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